Your wedding is one of the largest, most impactful events that you will ever have to plan. I’ve learned a lot about myself, my husband, my family, and my friends. I had the most amazing experience planning my wedding. That doesn’t mean that things didn’t go wrong or that there wasn’t drama. Trust me – there was drama. However, the experience as a whole was exciting, fun, emotional, and downright amazing. Here are a few tips I learned along the way:
- People will get upset and they will pressure you. I can guarantee you that there has not been a single wedding in this entire world where not a single person got upset about decisions that were made. Your family and your friends will get butt-hurt about something at least once and they will also try to pressure you into something that they think is best. If you are anything like me, emotions and opinions can start to really overwhelm you. Always listen to what people have to say, but do not let others dictate YOUR wedding. In the end, if you do not have the wedding that you and your future spouse want, you will regret all the changes you made because of other people. Don’t lose sight as to what is the ultimate end game: it is a celebration of your marriage and the people that love and care about you the most are going to support whatever you do!
- Cherish all the time that you spend planning – Your wedding day will be a blur! I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but the day of your wedding will pass by in a blink of an eye! All the planning that goes into the big day is really an extension of the wedding itself. I know that when you look at all that needs to be done, it can be exhausting to even think about. Treat every little detail that you take on as an experience; you can have fun, you just need the right attitude! Every shopping trip, dress appointment, venue visit, etc. is something you can keep with you forever so have fun and make the most of it!
- Plus ones don’t have to be a thing. Although I think it is important that your guests have at least one or two people they know at the wedding, you are absolutely entitled to not invite people that you don’t know to your wedding. This goes along with “people will pressure you.” Weddings are expensive and I don’t know about you, but I would rather invite my dear friend Sally in place of someone’s latest Tinder match. It is okay to say no. Unless you are made of money, no matter how many “plus ones” you say no to, there will still be people you won’t be able to invite. That is one of the hardest parts of planning; so prepare yourself for that moment when you have to start crossing people off your list. Pro tip: send a small card with your wedding invites that says how many seats you reserved for your guests so you don’t have to have that awkward “no plus ones” conversation!
- Your wedding day is a chance to let you and your fiancé’s personality shine! Luckily for us, there is not one “right” way to do a wedding (no matter what anyone tells you!). If church bells and ballrooms aren’t your style, that is okay! This is one of the only days that everything is about you and your fiancé; take advantage of that. Be creative and incorporate your lifestyle into your big day. Hotels are not the only place to have an awesome wedding reception – we rented out a bar because that was more our style, and let me tell you, it was fantastic! Fill your wedding weekend with everything that you love and treasure; you will enjoy the planning process and the day of so much more.
- In the end, your family and friends should be what matters most. The celebration of marriage includes a celebration of all the love from family and friends that you have in your life. While the wedding is ultimately about you and your spouse, you couldn’t have made it this far in life without the help and support from other people. Make sure that you verbalize how significant they are to you. Life is crazy and busy and it goes by fast – your wedding is a chance for your to actually slow down and truly value what is important in life. Thank your role models, your confidants, your helpers, your advocates, and the ones that will always stand beside you and fight for you.